Let me tell you from the bottom of my heart hun, By letting go as you call it, you would be opening a whole new world of possibillities.
Living in the past holding on for dear life doesnt keep them here hun, letting go of the old, the hurt, the pain ect opens a new door where by with your acceptance they can choose to come back and share their wonderful world with you.
The minute you accept them as they are, you will feel love, honour and a massive sense of relief that will bring you closer to them than you ever thought possible.
Its not about saying goodbye, its about letting go of all that pent up hurt, anger and frustration, get rid of the loss and gain a whole new perspective on your loved ones, one youl wonder how you ever coped without .
love you xxx